3 Subtle Reasons Our Relationships Keep Flopping

Check to see if these apply to you

Lee Bidoski
7 min readOct 10, 2022
Photo by Jacob Rank on Unsplash

Are you in a relationship-break-up-relationship-break-up cycle and can’t quite figure out why nothing is quite working out?

There are plenty of reasons this might be happening. Some are obvious, but some are a bit more subtle.

Here, I’ll show you 3 subtle reasons that your relationships might be flopping.

If you find one that matches your pattern, you’ll get ideas of how to break that cycle.

1. You air your dirty laundry in public.

I once had a friend who would call me frequently to tell me the latest awful thing her boyfriend did.

One time she called me, crying and miserable, because she’d asked him to get rid of old photographs he had of past female friends that were cuter than her. She’d found out he still had those photos.

Another time she called me because she was so upset that he was still not loading the dishwasher the way she’d asked him to, and he wasn’t helping by scooping the kitty litter as she had asked him to.

Often, she’d break down crying to a group of us, telling anyone who was around the latest infraction he had committed.

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Lee Bidoski

I’m a psychology professor trying to understand and improve our lives. Relationships | Dating | Health | Careers | Sports | Law Enforcement | Military