Aha! Now I see what you're asking! Thank you for re-wording it--I totally get that what I wrote could be confusing. This is a good chance for me to try explaining what I was thinking, tho I recognize now that I was stretching it a little. I was imagining a guy who, like you said, confuses sex as love, then gets married, and the sex continues to be good but then, say, two years go by and he starts feeling unhappy in his relationship. He'd think, "Technically, I shouldn't be unhappy. After all, I'm getting great sex so my love language is getting spoken since I assumed my love language is physical touch." But by knowing this whole love language thing, he'd have the insight to recognize "Ohhh, I was wrong to think physical touch was my love language just because I enjoyed the great sex." So then he could figure out what his language is (or whether it is physical touch but he needs non-sexual touching, not just sex) and that might help him know how to fix the problem. Without knowing how love languages work, he may go on being confused about why he's unhappy tho he's getting good sex. Hmmm. That's quite convoluted. I've gotta figure out a better way of writing all that...Regardless, thank you for helping me think through that sentence a bit more:)