Are All the People You Date Jerks? Or Is Something Else Going On?
These 3 tendencies might explain why you keep — supposedly — meeting dirtbags.
It’s a classic scene: A woman puts on her cute, new dress, curls her hair, then waits at the restaurant for her date to show up. Alas, the guy stands her up.
What a dirtbag.
Do you keep picking people to date only to find out that all of them are dirtbags?
What if…they’re not all dirtbags? What if…you have a tendency that might explain why you — supposedly — keep meeting dirtbags in dating?
Read here to learn about three such tendencies and, if this applies to you, what to do differently.
Tendency 1: You catastrophize.
My friend was excited about a woman he met online. They agreed to go on a fifth date on a Saturday, but the plans weren’t firmed up. She had to work and wasn’t sure when she’d get off work.
That day, he kept waiting for her to text or call him to say “I’m off work now. Ready to meet up” so they could then decide on a meeting time. In the meantime, he kept busy.
That afternoon, he helped a friend move some furniture. He texted his date a picture of a big, antique…
