Beware of Dating the Newly-divorced: 4 Reasons
After a 27-year marriage, my friend Henry signed the divorce papers. He turned to me and said, “That’s it. So, how about me and you?”
He said it with a wink because we’d already had the talk, the “Why I absolutely won’t date you even after you’re divorced” talk.
In that talk, I gave him four reasons why I — and others in the dating world — need to carefully consider whether dating a newly-divorced person is a good idea.
1. Excited About Online Dating
Henry is excited about trying out online dating. Excited. That alone should give all people hesitation in dating a newly-divorced person without needing three more reasons.
I’ve been in the online dating trenches for many moons. I think of online dating as a tool. Are you excited about your rake when it’s time to go rake leaves?
If you ‘look forward to online dating’, you don’t know enough to properly dread it.
At this stage, I’m excited about the possibility of not ever doing the online dating thing again. That means that I’m in a completely different phase than someone who is newly-divorced and is excited about online dating.
I want Henry to feel that excitement. For years, Henry knew he’d likely get a divorce. In his…
