Break A Dating Taboo: Talk About Money

When and how to check financial compatibility

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“John, I know it’s awkward, but I think you’re going to have to talk to her about it.”

My friend John had been dating Jill, a woman he met online, for about three months, but he was starting to have doubts.

I, too, had my doubts that Jill was a good fit for John. I had wondered whether he was compatible with a woman who talks about chakras, her inner child, and self-care — often.

I thought it was a bit comical that John, the uber-responsible, even-keeled, logical John, was dating a woman who lit a lot of candles because “aromatherapy is therapy”.

I mean, opposites supposedly attract, but that really is polar opposite from John who pretty much has every box checked on a checklist of stereotypical, engineer traits.

But it turns out, those differences weren’t the reasons for John’s doubts about Jill.

The Taboo Topic

“The thing is, she quit her job to go back to school full-time, and she has a kid, but she’s constantly getting massages as part of her self-care,” John explained.

“Huh? I don’t understand. You said you respected for her having the guts to change careers in her 40s. And I thought…