Brian...I can't help but see the sadness behind the cruelty: A person gets hurt, then becomes wary and develops these tendencies to prevent future hurt, but then in doing so accidentally becomes the hurt-er...I realize these people seem to have revealed themselves as cruel and unreasonable, but what I see is that they're also revealing that they've been hurt in past and need to consciously work on these tendencies before they lose more relationship opportunities...Sucks for everyone all around, the hurt-er and the hurt-ee:( Let's just hope people with these tendencies recognize "That's what I've been doing and why" and stop doing the cruel stuff...

Brian, thank you again for reading my mumblings and encouraging me.