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How I Prevented the Guy I Was Dating from Cheating on Me

Warning: This story contains some sadness

Lee Bidoski
7 min readJan 3, 2022
Photo by Drew Hays on Unsplash

I wish there was some sort of scanner you could run over a person on a first date to detect whether the person is apt to cheat.

It would be like those stud finders you run over dry wall. They beep when they detect a vertical piece of wood behind the wall (well, actually the metal fasteners in the wood but no need to be precious here).

We could call it the ‘cheater finder’.

There was one date I went on where I think the cheater finder would have beeped loudly.

Here’s how the date played out, and here are the details of how I prevented myself from being cheated on, without the help of a cheater finder.

The Guy

My impression from his online dating profile: “This guy is cubic zirconia.”

He was handsomeness incarnate.

He had those crinkles around the eyes that make women pant. (Or is that just me? Man, I’m a sucker for crow’s-feet.)

He had a head full of the most luxurious hair that was clearly pruned at an expensive salon. (How did he manage to make the scruff on his jaw look refined instead of patchy?!)

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Lee Bidoski
Lee Bidoski

Written by Lee Bidoski

I’m a psychology professor trying to understand and improve our lives. Relationships | Dating | Health | Careers | Sports | Law Enforcement | Military

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