Good points! I saw recently a guy lost his job so his wife is threatening to leave him because he's no longer making the income she'd prefer him to make. I thought, "Did she marry the man, or did she marry the lifestyle his job gave her?" If the former, they'll work out a way they can still stay together and be happy. If the latter, she'll leave. I like the kind of marriages where people aren't making demands of each other (do this or I'll divorce you) but rather the people negotiate until the best solutions possible are made so that both people's needs are met (let's find you a job that you would be excited about but could stay close to home, but in exchange I'll be ok with the lower income). I like the idea of being able to count on someone that, even in the future with its unknowns, they'll continue to negotiate amidst changes in emotions, desires, and financial circumstances.