Hello Anne-- former law enforcement officer here. In my job I would see people do the most horrible things. It took conscious effort for me not to believe that "Humans are not the answer." It took conscious effort for me to not believe that all humans are awful. I imagine in your job you see a lot of horrible things that married people do to each other. I can only imagine the conscious effort it would take for you not to walk away everyday from that job thinking that all marriages are awful. I hope you are careful to protect your well-being and your own relationships and beliefs about relationships despite what you see in your job. Thank you for taking the time to read my piece. – –Lee