Hello, Doug--Thank you for responding again. You wrote, "Marriage is a bad idea". I'm just going to tweak that a bit to add, "You believe marriage is a bad idea". It is so understandable that if you've had bad experiences with marriage that you have that belief. Also, you may truly believe you're being logical to come to that conclusion. May we all realize that our personal experiences influence our beliefs, but others are certainly allowed to have different beliefs. It's interesting that others with a different belief from you also believe that they are being quite logical when they come to a different conclusion than you. But that's the very nature of these sort of topics, Doug. There is a "right" answer, but it's the "right answer for you and to you". Someone else can have a different yet also right answer, right for him and to him. I do hope married people, or people who would like to get re-married, aren't treated poorly because you think they are lazy and ignorant for engaging in something you consider to be dangerous and toxic. Again, I'm so glad you found someone who shares your belief on this topic. Regarding whether marriage is unnecessary, I think you're saying that since marriage is unnecessary, people shouldn't do it. I completely agree with your belief that marriage is unnecessary. I am personally firmly of the belief that something does not need to be 'necessary' for us to do it. If you only take actions that are necessary, then it's quite ok that you never eat ice cream or go to the movies or even love your partner. Certainly, many things in life are unnecessary yet I still choose to do them because I have my reasons for wanting to do them, though they may not be aligned with what you think my reasons should be.