Hello, David--Oh man, it was good to hear from you. Many divorced men I've known come out of marriage with a very negative view of marriage and, understandably, believe they'll never get married again. Yet some possibly didn't even go through near as hard a time as you did. For you to have gone through what you've gone through, yet be willing to not rule out the possibility of marriage, that's interesting. For sure, you'll learn what you need to learn to make sure that sort of thing doesn't happen again, but to be able to recognize, "It was the person, not the institution"...that makes me think you're really examining what happened and coming to understand it clearly instead of just giving the Pavlovian response "I was hurt in marriage; marriage is bad". I believe you're about 1 or 2 months into the new job--I hope it's going well. That's a lot to handle at one time--divorce and new job--but maybe, like me, you'll find some comfort and stress-relief in reading Medium articles here and there to get a break from all that It's pretty great having this supportive community with other writers and readers...