Hello, Fonda--I'd hate for a man (or anyone) to have to choose to forgo the love and support of a good, healthy home life in order to live in the danger zone. I've had to make that choice myself so ended up single so I could do military/law enforcement jobs, so I do understand what a sucky decision that is. Instead, my hope is us--and you!--to find a person who will be supportive of our pursuits. If a guy wants to play in the woods, I'd hope he'd find a woman who is ok with that rather than think he just has to be single. Overall, it's just for all to see that stifling anyone's nature--even if you're doing it for good reason--can have some unintended consequences. Maybe a big solution is to spend a lot of time upfront working these things out, making sure both people are on the same page. If you want to ride motorcycles, then it's good to have it hammered out before marrying whether yáll are agreed on that and, more particularly, whether she's still going to be ok with it when you have kids. From what I'm hearing from some women, they're fine with their husbands doing things like deploying for missions until she becomes pregnant and suddenly she starts demanding he not volunteer. When I hear those stories, it makes me wonder if they didn't talk a lot before marrying about their expectations about life specific to when they had kids. He would've then learned that's how she felt. Maybe they spent too much time in courting talking about what movies they liked instead of what their expectations would be if they had kids:) Man, it makes me want to get everything in writing: "On 4/16/22, you agreed that if we had kids, you'd still be ok with me riding motorcycles and volunteering to deploy." :)