Hello, Jason--I think it's quite ok if you've decided this is the solution that is best for you. Other people who have the goal of a healthy, happy relationship may choose to enact solutions other than the one you offer here. They may choose to learn--and enact--other ways to work towards the goal of building a healthy, happy relationship. Lawd knows that will probably be harder than 'be selfish, make money', but we certainly have an array of options on how to live our lives, including the ways that involve learning new things to try.--Lee