Hello, Jesse--I feel fortunate in that...I know what it's like to feel loved despite my flaws...so I know that when someone uses my flaws as a seemingly-legitimate reason to consider breaking up with me or not spending time with me, I know to not interpret that as me being awful. I so fear for people who listen to the avoidants and start believing themselves to be as awful as the avoidants may tell them they are...:( --Lee