Hello, MJ--That's a cool phrase: A "guy sorter"!! You need to patent that:):) It does seem increasingly hard to find people who have these seemingly 'old fashioned' values to wait a while before having sex. But I do find that amongst older, divorced men, some are ok with the waiting because from their past marriages--which were sometimes the product of eagerness to have sex--they learned the hard way that sexual compatibility is only one of many features needed. I do still occasionally hear divorced men indicate that it's super important to quickly 'test' sexual chemistry, to find out up front if that's a go, but I don't even give the men who say that the time of day. I just think that if that's so urgent for them to figure out quickly, then they need to go date the people who also agree that sexual chemistry needs to be known quickly, so the rest of us can be left to figure it out in a slower fashion.