Hello, MXM--Thank you for reading and expressing your thoughts. Have you ever written something and wished you could go back and refine the points you made because you realize they didn't come across the way you intended? That's what your comment here prompted me to wish. I so wish I could somehow make it clear that none of this is meant to be generic advice nor generic criticism. It's not meant to convey "Guys, this is what you're all doing wrong". I wish I had more clearly conveyed my intent which is this: Some guys I know who are dads (just some, not all) expressed confusion over why women lost interest in them fairly quickly, without a clear reason. At the same time, I hear some women (not all) saying some of the things they were bothered by when dating guys who were dads that made them lose interest. But, the women weren't explicitly saying to the guy, "The reason I lost interest in you was I didn't like how rude your kids were to me and in general and that just turned me sour" or "The reason I lost interest in you was because you made time in our life to watch 100+ sports games a year but could barely make time to see me once every 2 weeks between the games and dad obligations which just wasn't what i want in a relationship". So I was hearing some of this from women and realized that these dads might just not know. I'm not giving advice that dads need to change this. I just wanted to convey this information to them so they know possible reasons because they likely aren't hearing this from the women they dated. If they learn this they might feel a little better, recognizing, "Oh, maybe reason #6 applies to that situation with that woman". Perhaps just knowing/understanding the reason is all they wished for and now that they understand they may not care one bit to change what they're doing. If they truly believe they can't help it if their kids are rude because of something unique to their situation, then it's quite ok for them to stick to what they're doing. But at least they know now that the rude kids are a possible reason for their struggles in dating. Alternatively, if they realize that may be a reason they've struggled in dating and realize that is something they can change and want to change, then that gives them an idea of something to work on instead of sitting around bewildered, not knowing what they're doing that's turning women off, you know? So this absolutely isn't meant to broad stroke anything. Not all dads are 'guilty' of these 7 things and even if they are, there's no reason for them to change if they don't believe or agree it's possible or necessary. So... in trying to solve the problem of some dads not knowing why they can't get some women to stick around, it looks like I created a new problem of making dads--or readers like you--feel that I'm broad-stroking with advice that isn't customized to all men and their unique situations. I'll keep trying to improve my writing so that, hopefully, I'm not interpreted in such a way that is so far from my actual intent. Take care, MXM. --Lee