Hello, Nem —

Be sure to check out the first few sentences of what I wrote. I’ll copy it here: “To be fair, a guy who doesn’t send dick pics isn’t necessarily a good guy, but still, it’s a start.” As you can see, I didn’t define character based on number of dick pics sent. Perhaps I didn’t make that as explicit as you’d prefer.

I believe you have a Ph.D in astrophysics, right? I wouldn’t think this post of mine on Medium about dating would be quite the right source for those looking for intellectualism. Indeed, it’s more like…say…an operating manual for a microwave. It’s useful to know how to set the timer. Perhaps it’s useful for those of us in the dating world to share our thoughts and experiences, a sort of pooled knowledge.

Regardless, I think it’s ok if, despite your degree in astrophysics, you write your opinions on topics of your choice. Perhaps you’d like to weigh in on, say, politics, or psychology, or something else that you don’t have professional grounding in. That’s quite ok. It’s not like you’re claiming, “I have an astrophysics Ph.D so everyone should accept my word as an expert”. If someone who professionally works in psychology decided, “I’m going to write about how I get my dog to be less stinky”, is that ok? I mean, yeah, it lacks intellectualism, but is that going to be concerning to you? If someone who professionally works in psychology decides, “I’m going to write about the process I’ve used to sift through online dating profiles over the years” or “The process I used to overcome my doubts about writing”, I think that’s quite ok for me to do though you may disagree.

Nem, I’ve so appreciated that you’ve read about 3 of my pieces so far, despite my incredibly lazy intellectualism:)

— Lee