Hello, Neshia--It sounds like you may have a had a bad experience. If so...I'm so sorry for that. If it's any comfort, many women don't want to re-marry, just as many men don't, so being averse to re-marriage may not be a 'male' perspective. My perspective -- and wish for you -- is that we heal from our bad experiences and don't think one person will be awful just because another person has been awful. I so hope you find what works for you, be it marriage, LTR, or no relationship at all. I think...no one should try to convince you marriage isn't bad or that marriage is bad...you get to choose what you believe and act accordingly and if over time that view changes, cool, and if it doesn't, cool. My best to you, Neshia.