Hello, Suzanne--I'm sorry you had to deal with an ex like that, too, but thank you for spawning more thought on the topic. I was just thinking...in the past I've tried to be nice to people so they would give me BOTD. Now...I kind of think I should just get BOTD from anyone new in my life. I don't have to earn it to get it, per se. When someone doesn't give us the BOTD...it says a lot about their own mindset and experiences and way of being...and now I recognize that I just don't find people who won't give BOTD to be attractive, plain and simple. Ok...off to go work on less interesting things. I enjoyed reading your thoughts!--Lee