Hello, Synergydd--I feel exactly as you do. I, too, don't like when people tell me that I should think the way they think. I'm a woman, and I too don't like when people tell me I should think like a woman. Like you, I think it's ok for me to think the way that I think. I'm completely ok with them thinking the way they think. If they ask me, "Hey, what are the reasons you think the way you do?", as my friend in article did, I'm happy to share those reasons, as I did in this article. But in sharing those reasons, I'm simply sharing information. I'm not trying to persuade you or anyone else to think like me. I'm so sorry that you had such a bad experience with the woman you married. I can only imagine how upset you must have been when it felt like she did a bait-and-switch, doing the stuff you liked to do in order to suck you in, only to stop it once she hooked you. I wrote a story a while back about my own realization that I was a 'chameleon' dater, tending to happily engage in the activities that the person I dated liked. I didn't do it to deceive him. I really thought I was doing it to make him happy, because man I like making people happy. But when I became aware that that was a tendency I had, it definitely made me be more careful to not do that since then. Your story here is a reminder to me to be careful not to do that to a poor fella. It's just not cool. I can see why this bad experience has led you to believe that marriage is a scam, b.s., and awful. That's very understandable. Some of us haven't come to that same conclusion. I'm beginning to think the best way forward is for people who believe marriage is a scam/b.s. might need to seek out other people who believe the same to be in relationships with. People who don't believe it's a scam might be better suited for being with people who, like themselves, don't believe it's a scam. Regardless, I do think, from what you've described here, that you were 'scammed' in your marriage, and I so hate that that happened to you.