How aggravating! I do find apologies seem to make things go smoother, but in my head think "Why is your preference the default?" I don't see them apologizing for expecting me to drop what I'm doing to constantly text them;)

I think the second guy was a bit ticked about that--that I didn't text him back fast enough to arrange for logistics. Then again, he twice invited me to do something about an hour before the time he proposed to do it. I don't necessarily mind short-notice invites, but since I don't check texts frequently, I didn't see the invite until after the time. So it was odd he couldn't track my failure to respond 'soon enough' back to his failure to plan in advance:)

I don't really sweat all this. It can all be worked out pretty easily and quickly if people will just talk about it. But it is interesting that this is a new pattern I've encountered in dating that I hadn't dealt with before. Like maybe they read something that says "If a woman doesn't text you back quick enough, that's not good" versus some nuanced understanding of why someone might not and how to handle it and how to talk about it. Ach well.

What I do appreciate, though, is that they were good men. They weren't being douches at all. They just know that's what they want and weren't willing to accept anything other than that. But to make that unilateral decision after only one week and no discussion...geezus.