In this situation that I described, his military career was not being terminated because of injury or 'family commitments'. It was because a wife prioritized her own wish to live where she wanted over the wish of her spouse to enjoy the military career--one he already had, one she already knew about, and one she'd already agreed to support. She may prefer he change careers so she doesn't have to change locations--that's not the same as 'family commitment'...perhaps what you write here is also applicable to the wife: Her joy is not so narrow that she couldn't find joy in other locations. A wise wife could break down exactly what components of the location were especially attractive...and prepare herself for a variety of other locations.