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Men Who Like Sex: Stop Saying Physical Touch Is Your Love Language
Part 1: Dating and love languages
Asking “What’s your love language?” is the modern equivalent of asking “What’s your zodiac sign?”
Lately, I’ve seen this trend in dating. In online dating profiles, people list their love languages. (I like walks on the beach at sunset, and my love language is physical touch.)
On first dates, men tell me what their love languages are and ask me what mine are.
When guys mention love languages, there’s a little bit of a halo effect. They come off as ‘sensitive’ and ‘self-aware’. But when I probe it, it turns out that most people who tell me their love languages haven’t actually read Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages. They have no idea what they’re talking about.
I get it. You’re busy. You don’t have the time — or inclination — to read the whole book, though the book was published about 30 years ago.
I’ll help you out. In this series, Dating and Love Languages, I’ll give you some main take-aways from the book.
If you read these, at the very least you’ll be able to fake it a little better the next time love languages comes up in conversation. If you actually do what I suggest, you might end up improving your dating and…
