Oh gawd. That's frustrating to be...judged from something so innocuous. I was no better than your ex when I wouldn't go on another date with a great guy because of a vague dislike for having a Jeep Wrangler with no stick shift. I wish I'd understood then what really, really matters. To be fair, I've been 'dismissed' a time or two for seemingly-superficial reasons that for whatever reason the guy thought was super-important. Long ago I went on 3 dates with a guy and it became clear something was off so we agreed to not date and just be friends. We're friends even to this day. Eventually, he told me that what turned him off about me was that I talked a lot about my dog. I had just gotten my dog a couple weeks before I met him, so naturally I was talking a lot about my new dog. Since he's been friends with me, he now knows that was just a 'new dog' excitement, that I eventually settled down and didn't talk about my dog that much. But when we went on the dates, he just made the sweeping judgment that he didn't like that. Oh well. I'd like to think that as we--and your ex--gets older, we'll come to understand what matters, but in the meantime, we may still have to suffer a bit from people who haven't learned. We keep looking for someone who 'gets it'.