That's definitely another way of handling such situations. I think we each have to figure out what method works best with out own ways of being. I think, in that situation with the fella on the beach, I believed I could 'control myself and just be his friend', but I didn't do a great job at it. If my lack of control only hurt me, fair enough, but it ended up hurting someone else, too. I can see value in learning or having that sort of control!