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The Men Who Are Everything I Should Want — And Why I Don’t Date Them
You can meet good people through online dating. If you keep rejecting them, learn why.
My big dilemma in dating is that I’m very good at picking good men to date.
Well, there was the guy who, on our first date, barely talked to me. I kind of think I’m good at keeping conversations flowing, even with the most socially awkward people. But I couldn’t with this guy.
We didn’t struggle to talk because he was reticent, but because he was too busy talking to the women in the bridal party at the table beside us.
Our tables were all crowded together, so he’d lean over and say something to the women at their table. I was on the other side of our table so couldn’t hear what he said. The women would burst out in laughter, so apparently he was quite amusing.
But when he returned his eyes to me, he was silent.
I did my best, asking get-to-know you questions. (Actually, check me on this. Are these ok questions to ask on first dates: What music were you listening to on the drive over here? What made you choose to live here? What got you into piloting?)
Even if they weren’t the best questions, he’d answer with only a few words, clearly…
