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The One Thing We Need to Do In the Early Days of Dating
This may save you from another dead-end relationship
Today I looked through the past years of my dating history. I’ve been divorced over a decade, so there’s plenty to look at. Strangely, I see so many good memories. I see good men.
Only when I look closely do I see the dead ends. The wastes of time. But today, I’m in the mood to look more closely.
As I turn the pages of these memories, there’s one thing I don’t see. And suddenly I recognize the one thing that these wonderful men seemed unable to give me.
I remember one day I was sitting on the couch of what I believed was the love of my life. (Though so many years have gone by, and I know we’ll never speak again, I still believe in his goodness.)
I was watching TV. If you knew me, you’d know that sentence is quite odd because I hardly ever watch TV. But I was staying at his place for a month, and TV was a bit of a novelty for me.
I was riveted by something on the History Channel. I hadn’t even known that TV could be so interesting; I thought it was just full of cheesy sit-coms. This History Channel activated every information-nugget-gathering instinct in me. Fascinating.
