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When to Sacrifice Your Relationship for a Job
Or vice versa
Recently I was collaborating with Jesse Bramani to write a sort of he-said, she-said piece.
Jesse and I met here on Medium.com, commenting on each other’s stories. I respect him because I find his writing (like this) insightful, whether he’s writing about computer coding or the human condition.
From our exchanges, I have come to think of him as a very dear friend.
As we collaborated, he asked what I thought about adding ‘flirty banter’ to our piece to make it more engaging. “Kind of like When Harry Met Sally,” he said.
My abrupt response: “No.”
Now I feel like a jack a**. It wasn’t that it was a bad idea. It’s just that, in the bigger scheme, it has to do with my thoughts on whether we can have it all — a career AND a relationship. (I’ve written about that before, here, but I promise this piece is different.)
“Uh, I don’t get it. What does flirting banter have to do with ‘having it all’?” Jesse may very well ask. (He didn’t, but I’m putting words in his mouth because I know they seem unrelated.)
Here, I’ll tell you about three experiences — three exes — that helped me flesh out my thoughts about when to sacrifice relationships for careers and vice versa.
