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Women: 4 Ways to Train Men to Help Out More at Home

Learn how from horse jockeys and dog trainers

Lee Bidoski
7 min readApr 11, 2022
A dog’s paw is in the hand of a human, doing the trick “shake hands”
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When I mingle with the wives of male co-workers, hubby-bashing is a favorite sport.

“My husband said he’d pick up some formula on the way home, but he forgot.”

“Mine said he’d paint the guest bedroom. That was 7 months ago.”

At work, though, their husbands didn’t ‘forget’ or neglect their work.

What was happening that these men who I knew to be uber-reliable men at work were strangely behaving like irresponsible idgits at home?

Here, I’ll explain one reason that men are crappy on the home front.

Then I’ll give you 4 ways that women can train men to do domestic duties as willingly as they do their jobs.

Why Men Are Crappy on the Home Front

Have you ever seen jockeys whip a horse? They whip the horse during races to ‘motivate’ the horse to run faster, to try harder.

Nagging is the verbal equivalent of whipping a horse.

Some women say, “That’s not cool to hit horses!” Yet these same women verbally hit their husbands to ‘motivate’ their husband to work harder at their domestic duties.

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Lee Bidoski
Lee Bidoski

Written by Lee Bidoski

I’m a psychology professor trying to understand and improve our lives. Relationships | Dating | Health | Careers | Sports | Law Enforcement | Military

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