Don’t Get Married: You Can’t Afford It

Part 1: Reasons divorced people warn you to not get married

Lee Bidoski
7 min readFeb 9, 2022
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Recently, I wrote a piece about the nine reasons that divorced women, me included, might want to get re-married.

Holy hell, I suffered some blowback for writing that. I got tore up, chewed up, and spit out.

Some men — and women — made sure they let me know all the reasons that marriage is horrible. They didn’t outright say I was foolish for wanting to get re-married, but the message was received.

Plenty of men and women shared my reasons for wanting to get re-married, but I wanted to make sure I listened to and learned from the people with opposing views.

The cool thing is, people wrote to me about their opposing views in a reasonable tone, without being too disparaging or derogatory. (Well, most did.) They helped me flesh out my thoughts on this topic a bit more.

I’m writing this series to summarize the reasons that divorced people told me that marriage is god-awful and no one in their right mind should want to get married.

Along the way, they may just change my mind and convince me that I shouldn’t want to get re-married after all.

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Lee Bidoski
Lee Bidoski

Written by Lee Bidoski

I’m a psychology professor trying to understand and improve our lives. Relationships | Dating | Health | Careers | Sports | Law Enforcement | Military

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